I've had it with people who say that the way to a happy relationship is to eliminate  conflict.

I've had it with TV ads for dating services that show a deliriously happy couple scientifically matched to make sure they are so compatible that they seemingly will always have that happy smile pasted across their faces (when those faces aren't obscured by a passionate lip-lock).

Couples don't get into trouble because of conflict. Couples get into trouble because they don't know how to handle their differences with emotional "smarts." Dumb fights are the product of emotions simmering beneath the surface, unrecognized, unrevealed and under-regulated. 

Conflict in a relationship is plain normal.  It is our differences, our uniqueness,  that gives our relationships excitement, surprise, and passion.

Conflict is an opportunity to deepen your understanding and strengthen your trust.  Conflict is necessary to become a "we."